Dealing With the Emotional Self

STRESS

The confusion created when one feels totally out of control.

Optimum levels of stress can act as a creative, motivational force that can drive people to achieve incredible feats (eustress—good stress).  Chronic or traumatic stress (distress) on the other hand, is potentially destructive and can deprive people of physical and mental health and at times even of life itself.

Severe or chronic stress can result in disease or death.  Some stress related disorders: high blood pressure, strokes, heart attacks, headaches, increased vulnerability to infection and cancer, memory impairment, depression anxiety and sexual difficulties.

You can control how stressed you become.

Are you stressed?

Signs and symptoms:

• Rapid heart rate,
• elevated blood pressure,
• nausea/vomiting,
• chest pain,
• dizziness,
• fatigue,
• fear,
• severe panic,
• emotional shock,
• sleep disturbance,
• change in eating habits,
• emotional outbursts.

A response to a vague, distant, or even unrecognized danger.

Anxiety affects your whole being.  It is a physiological, behavioral and psychological reaction all at once.    On a physiological level, anxiety may include bodily reactions such as rapid heat beat, muscle tension, queasiness, dry mouth, or sweating.  On a behavioral level , it can sabotage your ability to act, express yourself, or deal with certain everyday situations.  Psychologically, anxiety is a subjective state of apprehension and uneasiness.  In its most extreme form, it can cause you to feel detached from yourself and even fearful of dying or going crazy.

If you experience four (4) or more of the following symptoms at the same time you may be experiencing an
anxiety, or full blown panic attack:

• Shortness of breath,
• heart palpitations,
• trembling or shaking,
• sweating,
• choking,
• nausea or abdominal distress,
• numbness,
• dizziness or unsteadiness,
• feelings of detachment or being out of touch with yourself,
• hot flashes or chills,
• fear of dying or fear of going crazy or out of control.

If this sounds like your experience get help.

Is conflict necessarily negative. We encounter conflict situations in our everyday life since conflict is inevitable. Persons may have different goals, values or needs and may not share the opinion of their friends, parents, or employers. Conflict situations can be beneficial, while in some other situations if not managed effectively can become dangerous and cause harm.

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CONFLICT RESOLUTION IN THE WORKPLACE

Divorce:

Experts agree that the leading cause of divorce is the lack of  forgiveness between the couple. Unforgiveness is a virtual dungeon that keeps  any natural expression of love for the ‘offender’, captive  (spouse/children/other persons).  In most marriage relationships where this trend of unforgiveness is present, divorce in imminent.

The death of relationships According to Dr. John Gray,  usually occur in four (4) stages.  The four R’s are

1. Resistance -which occurs when you find yourself starting to resist something your partner is saying, doing or feeling.  You start criticizing them in your mind and you might notice yourself pulling away.

2. Resentment – is a much more active form of resistance.  It is intense dislike and blame of the other person for what they are doing.  Your partner really starts to annoy you.  You may find yourself getting angry over small things, blowing them out of proportion.  It is usually accompanied by an internal process of anger and tension.  You are separating from your partner emotionally.

3. Rejection – occurs when so much resistance and resentment has built up that it becomes impossible for you to stay emotionally connected, and you pull away.  You are turned off emotionally and sexually.

4. Repression - is the most dangerous of the four R’s.  It occurs when you are so tired of resisting, resenting and rejecting that you successfully repress all your negative emotions.  Repression is a state of emotional numbness.  You numb your feelings in order to be comfortable.  The numbness spills over into the rest of your life.

“(Jesus) said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Matthew 19:5-6 (NKJV)

If you separate a whole then you no longer have  the whole therefore guard your marriage relationship look for signs of wear and tear and invest time and energy in repairing it before it breaks down.